Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim

1. Introduction

Sociologically and psychologically, a household is a system that requires balance between physical presence and inner fulfillment. When a “follow-the-crowd” lifestyle (Taqlīd) infiltrates the home, a shift in values occurs: the home that should be a place of worship turns into a showroom for display. The gap between lifestyle demands and economic capacity creates chronic stress that triggers disputes (Syikāq). Scientifically, family happiness does not correlate with the amount of furniture, but with the quality of time and the independence of mind not to compare one’s own provision with others’

Evidence from the Qur’an and Hadith :

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ warned us not to be dazzled by the glitter of wealth belonging to those who neglect Allah:

يَا عَائِشَةُ ، إِيَّاكِ وَمُجَالَسَةَ الأَغْنِيَاءِ

"O Aisha, beware of keeping company with the rich [who are not devout]." (HR. Tirmidhi)

Allah SWT also set guidelines on guarding the independence of wealth rights:

وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بِهِ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ ۚ لِلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌ مِمَّا اكْتَسَبُوا ۖ وَلِلنِّسَاءِ نَصِيبٌ مِمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ

"And do not covet what Allah has bestowed upon some of you over others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned." (QS. An-Nisa : 32)

2. Lessons and Messages

A steadfast family is a “slice of Paradise” on earth. Do not destroy your happiness by comparing your kitchen to someone else’s living room. Your wife’s right is not merely material provision, but your presence. The wealth you accumulate while neglecting your presence at home will only build a luxurious house, yet leave an empty heart. Be a person free from greed for your spouse’s assets.There was a husband who worked day and night to buy his wife expensive jewelry and a lavish house. One day, the wife returned all the jewelry and said through tears, "Dear, I don’t need this gold if the price is your absence at home. I would rather eat simple meals while we sit in a circle with the children, than eat lavishly while I feel like a widow though my husband is still alive." This realization shattered the husband’s ego, as he saw he had lost his role as a father for the sake of numbers in a bank account.A household is like a garden. Plants do not only need fertilizer (material things); they desperately need sunlight and water (presence and attention). If a garden is constantly given fertilizer but never sunlight, its roots will rot. So it is with a wife; she married to feel tranquility (Taskunū) with you. Do not let that “sunlight” go out because of endless busyness.A wife teased her husband, "Dear, the neighbor just bought an imported leather sofa—when are we getting one?" Her husband answered calmly, "Darling, their sofa may be imported leather, but every day they have 'verbal wars' on it. Our sofa may be plain fabric, but we can laugh and study the Qur’an together on it. Which would you choose—sitting on an expensive sofa while holding a knife, or sitting on the floor while holding my hand?" His wife laughed, "Fine then, dear, just hold my hand—but please keep paying the motorcycle installments, okay!"

3. Conclusion

Brothers and sisters, the Islamic method for resolving family problems is to return to obedience. Avoid the copycat lifestyle that destroys finances, set aside enough time for your wife so no gap opens for a third party, and never be greedy for your spouse’s wealth. Marriage is not about who takes what, but about who gives what for the sake of attaining His pleasure

والله أعلم بالصواب

الحمد لله رب العالمين

Wassalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

Abu Sultan Al-Qadrie